I shared this on facebook and thought I’d share it here too.
Awkward moment: I’m very open about what I do and have never made any attempts to hide it from my loved ones. I’m on the phone with my dad talking about credit card processing issues and my frustrations with it.
Dad: Why is so hard to get an account for hypnosis?
Me: It is the erotic part coupled with hypnosis that presents the problem.
Me: Yes. I told you I was moving from clinical to erotic hypnosis almost 6 years ago. Have you ever looked at my website? I email you from it all the time.
Dad: I thought you said EXOTIC hypnosis.
Me: No. I definitely said erotic hypnosis. What did you think exotic hypnosis would entail?
Dad: I don’t know……..(long ass silence)………….
Dad: I’ve got to go. I need to feed the dog.
I guess he is fully in the loop now! We’ve emailed since and he seems to be a little bit over the shock even though I did have to read a few paragraphs on his disappointment that I’m not using my degree. I’ve been hearing that ever since I enrolled in hypnotherapy classes, so that came as no surprise.
Who knows about your hypno-fetish? Does your partner know? Your friends? Your family? If they don’t, how do you think they would react if told?
Two people know. I eventually told my therapist. He didn’t know what to do with the information.
I also told a friend about it. We were talking about ways to fight procrastination and he told me he has some hypnosis files (he didn’t mention right away that it was a guy in the recording) that helped him with that. It was 3:00 in the morning and I wasn’t functioning at 100%, so I told him why that would could be…problematic. He said he thought it was a little weird but it takes a lot more than that to freak him out.
I wish I had this freedom. I can’t reveal to my wife my hypnosis fetish because she’ll know I’m probably yp to no good when she’s not around. Her being right about that doesn’t make it any easier…
Wives/girlfriends/family can really get in the way! Glad you’re free to be open.
I told four friends, some males, some females… Well, I’m quite a vanilla guy and they all know I’m strange, so the fact I like guided masturbations or soft fantasy scenarios is no more than a little oddity!
I have only mentioned it to an on-line friend on a board game site. I would never tell my wife…although I think part of me longs to. I suppose if I thought she might be open to the idea I would tell her, but I know she wouldn’t be. I suspect that most guys won’t tell a woman they are involved with because they have learned over time that most women don’t like to be dominant. In my dating days I was often surprised at how few women (even outwardly aggressive ones) like to be in charge. In most cases there is a real desire for a man to be, if not dominant, at least not submissive.
I once asked and was allowed to climax at my wife’s foot but there was almost a sense of disgust that I would want that. She’s no prude; I think the idea of me in that position/mindset really turned her off so I’ve never broached the topic since…nor will I.